What do supermoms risk?

Supermoms are women who, despite their generosity, risk squandering the beauty and strength of motherhood. They are recognized by some very specific characteristics:

• they take care of their children with great dedication
• they struggle to reconcile work and family life
• they are organized, present and reliable
• They often put the needs of others before their own.

 But, here is the main risk for super moms, sometimes they become obsessive, well beyond the pathological, cumbersome and counterproductive.. We are talking about the super moms, a category of women and mothers that is growing rapidly, and not always with positive effects for the children. Scholars of psychology and family-related issues in general also blame super mothers for a sort of delusion of omnipotence. A mistaken and abstract idea of ​​the “I'll take care of everything“, or of the “always do as I tell you“. A delirium that while showing a theoretical strong side of women, in reality it bears witness to all the insecurity and precariousnessFeeling irreplaceable is never a proof of valid strength, even for a mum or super mom that she is. And thinking you have "everything under control" with children, with family, with home, and often also with work, it's pure utopia.

Hence a series of symptoms and problems, such as these:

• Stress and burnout: trying to manage everything (work, home, children) without breaks can lead to physical and mental exhaustion.
• Constant feeling of guilt: the pressure to always measure up can make you feel “never enough.”
• Neglecting herself: sleep, health, free time… often take a back seat.
• Strained relationshipsTrying to control everything can create tension with your partner or children.

As for the children, experts always underline  two important and opposite risksThe first is that of a son, or a daughter, who can identify with the super mum, and be so very fragile, very exposed to the wind of surprises that life has in store, especially when copying a single model of person. On the contrary, the super mom can unleash a dull and latent conflict with children, not a natural, healthy conflict that leads to growth. In this case, between mothers and sons, or daughters, a wall of frost rises, of silence, of the daily and creeping struggle. But what are the most obvious signs of life as a supermom?

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