How to recognize a person in love

Respect, esteem, warmth. He always has time for you and isn't in a rush to win you over. A man in love can be seen even in a simple glance.

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HOW RECOGNIZE UN MAN INNAMORATE 

The lying man? The one who says, "I'll never fall in love." When you happen to meet him, the upright man who asserts it with a show of confidence, know that you are dealing with a liar. He lies, perhaps unconsciously. The mystery of falling in love, fortunately for us, has no age, and even now we read stories of men and women, lifelong companions, who die within days of each other. The ultimate proof of their timeless love.

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HOW TO KNOW IF A MAN IS IN LOVE

But why are there more men who are covering their backs and trying to defend themselves with such a false statement? What certainly matters is an irreversible increase in men's fragility in relation to women.. We have become more unscrupulous, we show off more certainties, but for this reason we are more fragile. And we retreatThe boom in paid love, even with long-term relationships, is a perfect gauge of this kind of male abdication, the unwillingness to commit and compete with a woman who may be superior in her feminine curvyness, the escape from all responsibility through the shortcut of money. Falling in love, in this sense, can be truly scary.

THE RIGHT MAN

Then the women, at least in this area, have made great strides. They're not always waiting for a request, for someone to come forward, as if coming out were a male prerogative. If you look at contemporary adolescent girls, you'll notice they're increasingly pushy in their behavior, and when they like a boy, they don't waste time on unnecessary foreplay. They're the ones who come out. And they directly confront the uncertainties of a man who, for example, shields himself behind a love that's focused on others, like his children, and isn't available for a partner. Indeed, even love, amid the burdens of everyday life, is a finite, not an infinite, good.

THE MYTH OF THE PERFECT WOMAN

Finally, there is the myth of the perfect womanThe one we read about in novels, but never find in reality. The female who seems to possess all the qualities combined and as such appears to us like a goddess of dreams. Nonexistent. Love, if you think about it, is also an act of realism in giving oneself to the other, accepting them with their limitations and with the burden of things we don't like yet must share in the stability of an emotional relationship. The inability, only theoretical, to to fall in love, has extinguished with a breath the pleasure of seduction, of courtship. The great Michel de Montaigne wrote: "Do not rush into conquest. The more steps and ladders there are, the more greatness and honor you will find when you reach the top." But not rushing is one thing, retreating before fighting is another.

SIGNALS OF THEMAN INNAMORATE

  • He always has time for youA man in love, no matter how busy he is with work or other commitments, always has time for the person he's courting. He knows the proper hierarchy of the things that matter in life.
  • He considers you his equal.
  • Ti pixy really, beyond the inevitable differences of opinion.
  • He respects you, even when you don't agree.
  • He encourages you and appreciates you for who you are, without trying to change you.
  • He knows how to question himself and doesn't always want to be right regardless.
  • He cares about the well-being of the couple and knows how to be your ally. He doesn't hold things against you, but rather strives to find solutions with you to face life's challenges.

HOW DO YOU REALIZE THAT YOU ARE FALLING IN LOVE?

A man in love, as we've seen, isn't in a hurry. He's patient and knows the path to take to win over the woman he loves. But how does a woman realize she's falling in love? The butterflies in her stomach, typical of the initial phase of falling in love, aren't enough. Respect is essential, as is a sense of belonging. friendshipBut also the feeling, inexplicable in words, of wanting to share your life with that person because you perceive them as the right one.

WHEN JEALOUSY BECOMES DANGEROUS

Jealousy is an essential component of love. Freud himself defined it as "a normal emotional state, like grief." Yet there is a limit that should never be crossed, even when the violent man appears to be in love. It involves the use of violence, first verbal and then physical. Accompanied by constant pressure, retaliation, small and large blackmail. This is a unhealthy jealousy and the man who shows it must be removed before it is too late.

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