Apologizing is never a surrender, but a victory.

We've lost the habit of acknowledging mistakes. They can happen to anyone. We consider them a sign of weakness and waste a crucial word.

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How much effort, how much useless reserve, before pronouncing the magic word: excuseIn the public as well as in the private sector, the prevailing trend is now to never, ever, acknowledge a mistake.
It is rare, let's face it, to hear from a public man the such a clear and explicit recognition of one's own mistakeThis never happens in Italy. Despite so many statements, so many appearances on talk shows and online, our politicians are now accustomed to always speaking freely and never uttering this word. Sorry.

Apologizing is not surrender

The disappeared culture of “accountability”When you hold a public office, before you assume power, you assume responsibility, and for this you must answer to those who elected or appointed you. The whirlwind of free speech, spewed especially on social media, allows anything to be quickly erased. You don't even have time to admit a mistake and a new promise is already on the way. the new announcementOr a generic commitment like "Whoever makes a mistake pays." This commitment, too, is never fulfilled. Yet "sorry" should be a key word in our public and private language.
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Do you know one of the most effective words for improving human relationships, with everyone? It's the word sorry, simple and clear, dry and powerful in its simplicityYou're probably familiar with it, but perhaps you're among the majority of people who've lost the habit of pronouncing it, as if it's become awkward. Or superfluous. It's almost a syllable, more than a word.

Yet we have a huge difficulty pronouncing it. At home, even when we're just a moment tired, we respond with annoyance to someone's question. son. In office, when we become arrogant toward a weaker colleague. On the street, perhaps simply because we bumped into another passerby.

In practice today we say sorry when we want to point out to our interlocutor something that we have not understood about his speech or that we don't share. The drift towards sarcasm of a word that has lost its semantic power, which can be summarized in the synonym "my dispiace”, is very widespread in the Anglo-Saxon world, where the frequent use of the term “sorry" is used precisely to disorient our interlocutor, almost to silence him.

Apologies become an exercise in containing narcissism, indifference, and self-absorption. It's also a way to cultivate the quality of sobriety, a style that doesn't give in to the temptation of acrimony and a superiority complex. But why do we struggle more and more to express this simple concept? Where have we hidden it? According to what the New York Times, the removal occurred because we are no longer interested in acknowledging the mistake, to take note of it, to prevent it from repeating itself: rather, with a certain arrogance we reaffirm it and give value to stubbornness, to a stubborn and obstinate way of interpreting life. Sorry, instead, is a simple word that, as recent neurological studies also demonstrate, improves human relationships, to the point of illuminating the part of our brain where empathy is located.

And it is a key word for good coexistence, with Permit e thank you, as recently pointed out Pope FrancescoUsing it generously does not mean appearing weak or submissive, but rather open to good relationships.

Apologize. Famous quotes

  • < Sorry doesn't always mean you're wrong and the other person is right> Authorless
A sentence that alone says everything about the value of the word "excuse"regardless of the distribution of rights and wrongs. Speaking out is an act of kindness, empathy, and openness toward others, which is self-evident: who is actually right (or wrong) at this point becomes merely a detail.
  •  Gabriel Garcia Marquez

These key words for good relationships, especially with the people we love, are sometimes wasted for the most banal of reasons: haste. The superficial way we rush and fail to find time even for moments of attention and tenderness, which then become moments of love.

  • < A cold apology is a second insult. The party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged, but wants to be consoled because he has been hurt. Gilbert Keith Chesterton

Not all apologies are created equal; some are useless. And the way we present them can make all the difference. Let's try to put ourselves in the shoes of those we've hurt: they don't need a ritual, mechanical, platitude-based statement, and rightly seek something deeper. Even to settle accounts with themselves and ward off the temptation to retaliate.

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