Complaining is completely useless

When faced with difficulties, and there's no shortage of them these days, actions are more important than words. A healthy, concrete approach is needed, as is a rejection of a widespread tendency, especially among Mediterranean peoples: the tendency to complain, whine, and self-pity, a lifestyle where one constantly feels victimized by something or someone. The past year has been a difficult one for many, but as we look ahead to 2023, it's time to prepare ourselves, including psychologically, to best face the next 12 months. For example, by not constantly complaining. It's pointless; it's a sterile reaction that increases moodiness and laziness, and leads to resignation.

Why complaining is useless

These are years in which instead we must learn to reactTo be flexible in our behaviors, ready to modify them based on circumstances. A first effective way to avoid complaining is to push away negative thoughts and replace them with gusts of optimism (of willpower). Think of a difficulty at work, of things not going as you had imagined, and your instinctive reaction: to complain, precisely. Do the opposite: remember that right now, work is almost a luxury, and even a blessing. And in any case, you are certainly in a position to improve your situation. Second rule: do not seek solidarity in your complaint. Keep in mind that complaining often alienates others, puts you in a position of being rejected. You even become unbearable. Purify your complaint with irony, with lightheartedness, with a view of life according to which not everything should be taken seriously, always and in any case. And seek the company of people who inspire. friendliness and smilesThey are your role models.

Take action instead of complaining

Finally, third rule: ActComplaining leads, I'd say, to passivity, to the reassurance of "it all happens to me." On the contrary, action is concrete proof that you're taking responsibility, even to yourself, and try to exercise it to the fullest. You'll see, things will get better.

Why complaining is bad for your health

Complaining is bad for your health because of the short-term illusory effect it produces, compared to the long-term side effects. When we complain, initially we feel liberated, we feel lighter from a burden we tend to carry. brood. A pious illusion. After a short time the negative effects arrive: with the continuous complaint, the sense of loneliness and abandonment, the belief that we are eternal victims of some injustice, mental heaviness, listlessness. Suffering and pain. All wastes of our psychological and physical well-being.

The famous phrases

• «We were born crying, we live complaining and we die disappointed.". (Thomas fuller)

The priest, an Anglo-Saxon historical writer, has captured the human parable with synthesis, and even with a hint of cynicism. And ultimately he explains to us how lament is a waste of energy that changes nothing, except for the worse.

• «If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.'. (Maya Angelou)

Problems fall into two broad categories: those that can be solved and those that we can only manage, not solve. For the former, we need courage, energy, clarity. And a pinch of luck never hurts. For the latter, you just need to be mindful and not complain.

• «Faced with labor, like any created fiber, why do we complain?'. (Giuseppe Ungaretti)

Suffering is part of the human condition. It is not an exception, but a rule, like gioia.

• «There's always someone worse off than us. Let's remember that before we complain.'. (Bobby Kennedy)

Looking back and forth, and not being autistic and indifferent. That alone would be enough to stop complaining. Does that seem complicated to you?

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